Thursday, April 29, 2010
- Signs: milk, finished and bed!
- Favourite toys: Burt and Ernie, she gives them cuddles that make ME jealous!
- Favourite song: Telephone by Beyonce and Lady Gaga
- Favourite food: Spaghetti bolognese and Garlic bread!
- Skills: high fives, kisses, brushes her hair and teeth (even if most of the time she is using the wrong side of the brush!), blows rasperries on Mummas tummy, waves, stands up on the furniture, dancing (OH the DANCING!!)
- She loves Nanna and Poppy, although Poppy is best enjoyed at a distance of at least 5 feet (if he tried to tickle her yesterday she grabbed his hand and threw it away!)
Dancing is her favourite thing. So her birthday is going to be a "rock chick" party! That jukebox Mum won us is going to come in handy! Sarah and Alethea are coming around today to help me make the invitations. We will be thinking of you!
Have an awesome rest of your trip, I CAN'T WAIT to see you both in August! So, lets say worst case scenario you come back on the last day of August, that is only 121 days away! And counting!
PS Butterfly says to say, "I HATE uncle Jamie!"
Thankyou for drinking my milk. You have given me a HUGE range of benefits!
- I haven't had my period in over 19 months... SCORE!
- You provide me with a convenient excuse not to leave you with anyone else... saves me trying to explain that you are too young and attached to me to want to be babysat
- I have never had to make up a bottle, or stress out if I have left your food or drink at home!
- You have decreased my risk of breast cancer by up to 25%! Yippeeee!
- Same goes for uterine and ovarian cancer, just keeps getting better hey?
- I have a majorly decreased risk for osteoporosis... non-breastfeeding women have a FOUR TIMES higher chance of getting this one
- By drinking my milk you have given me a better chance of avoiding post natal depression
- Oh man, the WEIGHT LOSS!! I am officially skinnier now than before I got pregnant! HIGH FIVE!
- You save me over a $1000 a year in formula costs... think of how many nappies that is?
- You provided a convenient reason not to go back to work, my employers could not deny me extended leave when you are still exclusively breastfed! Teehee
- Today I was sick for the first time, and it was AWESOME to be able to lie on the floor and feed you instead of getting up to fix you a bottle
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
It isn't as if there is no routine in our lives, but the difference now is that I let Butterfly set her own!
Here are a few examples of how our lives have changed...
Then... set my alarm for 7am, and wake the baby if she wasn't yet awake (also applies to naps)
NOW... get up when we get up! Yeah, most of the time she wakes between 6.30am and 7.30am, but there have been a few after 8am wake ups that I would have MISSED!!
Then... feed the baby, put her in her cot, say goodnight and walk out, closing the door behind me (and then listen to her whinge herself to sleep)
NOW... Lie down together in our communal bed, and breastfeed to sleep, with my beautiful daughter playing with my skin... Sweet, peaceful, easy!
Then... bedtime is 7pm. If the baby is tired at 6pm stress both of you out by trying to keep her up till 7pm. If she isn't tired at 7pm, tough cookies it is bedtime!
NOW... bedtime is when she is tired. Woke up from her midday nap early? Go to bed at 5pm if needed. Had a nap in the car late in the afternoon? Stay up till 10pm playing with Dadda! If we try to put her to bed and she isn't tired, we don't stress about it, just take her out for another play until she IS tired enough!
Then... breastfeed the baby 6 times a day, and whenever she needs at night
NOW... geez, who counts?? Feed to sleep, feed when she wakes, feed while playing if she is thirsty, feed if she is teethy and upset, feed whenever and wherever!
Then... get up a zillion times a night to check that Butterfly is still breathing... then go searching for the cats every time I open the door to make sure neither of them snuck into her room in the dark!
NOW... Mostly I can hear her breathing, but worst case scenario I have to put out a hand, feel the rise and fall of her chest, and go back to sleep
Then... put her down for her naps exactly 1 hour 20 minutes after she woke up (for example), DON'T put her to bed 5 minutes early even if she is crying with tiredness!
NOW... put her down for her nap when she is tired, if we are out and about she may stay up later, if she had a rough night she can go earlier!
Then... wake up in the morning to the sound of a crying child and have to jump out of bed feeling like a zombie!
NOW... wake up to a little hand on my arm, and roll over to see my baby's smiling face! Then we open the blinds, and wake up at our own pace looking into the garden, followed by peekaboo with the sheets... blissssss
Then... if she wakes at night, go into her room, DON'T make eye contact, and try to resettle her if it isn't "time" for a feed
NOW... If she wakes she gets boob. If she is waking ridiculously often, hold her and pat her back until she goes to sleep.
Then... What time is it?
NOW... Who caresssssss! I follow her cues for feeding and bedtimes!
Yes, in some ways life has become a little less predictable, and I have to parent at night time... but I wouldn't go back for all the money in the world. That "book" had me convinced that my baby was born manipulative and I had to "teach" her how to self settle... pfft! Now I breastfeed to sleep, SHOCK HORROR! People may say I am making a rod for my own back. Whatevs, it is MY back... and I believe I will reap the rewards when my daughter grows up happy and confident having all her needs met as an infant.
Routines were easier on me. Continuum parenting is easier on Butterfly. I know which I will choose every time!
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
I have been very busy lately researching VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean). I have this friend who is a total legend/BIATCH for lending me a book called "Delivery by Appointment". It opened my eyes to the c-section process and the pros, cons and risks involved. My first section was elective, I thought I had totally valid and major reasons that I have since found out were pretty weak. I trusted my OB would help me make an informed decision. Hmmm. It is totally my bad though, I should have researched harder!
I then watched a movie called "The business of being born" (again, thanks/feck you dear friend!!) which made me want not only a VBAC, but a home birth! Over my husbands dead body though... we'll see. At any rate I am determined to have a successful and drug free VBAC (I CAN do it!!) I want to be able to squat or birth on all fours. I want my baby on my chest where she belongs, STRAIGHT after birth. I want to breastfeed without being drug affected/hooked up to tubes and monitors/stuck on my back. I want to go home and be with Butterfly and the new baby, instead of a 5 night stay in hospital followed by 6 weeks of Mummy being sore and unable to function properly. I want to experience birth, not be a spectator in an operating theatre. I want their birthday to be a surprise, not chosen because my OB does C sections "on a wednesday". I want I want I WANT!
Yes, I am aware that vaginal birth isn't a walk in the park, and that I may end up with stitches etc to recover from. I am aware that there is a slight chance that I may need another c section anyway (and if so, I will not consider my labour to be a "waste"). I am informing myself fully this time, so that I can make an educated decision. I am finding out the truth behind some myths. YES there is a risk of uterine rupture. It is extremely low, most ruptures occurred after they used drugs to induce women attempting VBAC. The risks to mother and baby are higher during a c section. So I am not worried about rupture at all.
What I AM worried about is being labelled "high risk" at the hospital, and watched like a hawk. That if I don't progress fast enough they will cut me. That I have a higher risk of unnecessary intervention. Sigh. This is why some women choose HBAC (home birth after caesarean), to birth naturally outside of the hospital setting. Bloody tempting!! (The birthing centres have VBACs on an exclusion list. *Insert string of expletives*)
I still have a long way to go in regards to informing myself and developing a solid plan. Oh yeah, FYI I'm not pregnant, not even trying for that matter! Just super organised! I will have to make sure I don't get pregnant before Butterfly is 18 months old to increase my chances of VBAC success...